i am bad at texting (my sincerest apologies)
2026.01.26I'm bad at texting. If I've left you on delivered, I'm sorry! It wasn't personal.
Here's what happens: I get busy with exams or deadlines, tell myself I'll respond after The Thing passes, and then:
- A new Thing immediately appears
- I forget I said "I'll message you in July"
- When I remember weeks later, I feel guilty, defer again, and the cycle repeats
Some other contributing factors / context:
- I'm a "5 close friends > 20 weak ties" kinda girlie. The people in my inner circle easily get 85%+ of my social energy, and I try to show up 110% for them. That doesn't leave much bandwidth for acquaintances, even ones I genuinely like.
- I'm mostly on SMS and email these days.
- WhatsApp is permanently out; Signal will return when I'm prepping for the UK, but not before.
If you want to reconnect, please follow up– I mean it. If not, I completely understand.
I promise it had nothing to do with you.